A Lover’s Embrace

My lover. The only constant in my messed up life. The only one by my side without any reservations. Hes seen me at my best, but more often than that he has seen me at my worst… and he has never rejected me. Never told me that I wasn’t good enough, never told me I was a disappointment. He simply is. He asks for naught, no explanations, no excuses, no expectations. He simply loves me, unconditionally. He sees me when noone else can , and has never once turned away, no matter how dark and twisted my mind was.

My every waking thought, my deepest darkest dreams, my fantasies, my ambitions- he knows them all, and he has never judged me for them.There isn’t a single memory, not a single crevice of my wretched heart that is hidden from him.And yet he loves me with a passion I have come to crave.

He has never left my side- not while I was silently crying myself to sleep, the pillows wet with my tears nor when loud sobs were wrecked my body.He held me through it all, comforting me…murmuring sweet nothings in my ear, encasing me in his arms until I caved and believed his half-truths. I feel safe, cocooned in his embrace, safe in the knowledge that as long as he was there, noone else could hurt me.

He prefers the death of the night, darkness when its just him and I, but sometimes he sneaks up on me, startling me with the intensity in his eyes- he can be quite playful that way. And I find it difficult to refuse him and give in, even with others are around- shameless, I know. Of course, I do prefer our trysts to be private but when its love as fiery as ours it was only a matter of time till we were found out.

Sometimes, I think he is cruel – he seems to revel in my tears, in watching each drop fall from eyes, my heart crying out for him, hearing my sobs muffled by my wrist so that no one else would hear. No one but him. Its then that I think I would be better off without him, that life would be simpler, far far easier. That he has taken over my life, overwhelmed me with the sheer strength of his will.

But then at times when he does leave me, the world no longer feels real. Nothing matters- I feel bereft of his presence, alone even in the midst of a thousand people. I can feel only numbness, not even grief or loss. It is then that I really just how much a part of my life he is, how much I crave him. How lost I feel without him.

So whats a girl to do – I try to catch his eye again. Its not too difficult, not when he is as fond of me as I am of him.So I take a blade and with surgical precision cut- not too deep , just enough to draw blood. And I feel him, in my veins ,in the quickening of my pulse, in each crimson drop that falls.And in that instant , I know we are inseparable, that beyond any rhyme or reason, I have become dependent on him. For , now he , and he alone makes me feel alive.

My anchor in a tumultuous ocean. My haven.My lover- le douleur exquise…

The Flap of a Butterfly’s Wings…

When I was a young girl, I remember my aunt telling me about the butterfly effect…. A seemingly inconsequential unrelated event having cataclysmic unforeseen consequences. The cynic in me wasn’t quite convinced but maybe it was just a little girl’s naivete, or perhaps her conviction that whatever happened in her life would always be a consequence of her decisions. That no one would ever hold so much power over her fate,that her life would be influenced in any way by someone else’s whims. Well life’s a vindictive bitch I have learnt, and now , a grown woman, I find myself pitying that little girls idealism.Derision for the idealism that bordered on stupidity.

So even as a child, when The Incident occurred, I told myself it would never affect the person I would grow up to be. I would never let my life or my opinions or my sense of self be determined by someone else’s baser instincts.There were no dark roads,no haunting nightmares nor any fiery pits of hell that could possibly crush my spirit. It wouldn’t affect me simply because I wouldn’t allow it to.

So I buried it in the deepest darkest crevices of my mind, so deep that even a horde of archaeologists would give up before they even scratched the surface . Do not get me wrong, I still had occasional isolated episodes ( still do, if I am being perfectly honest), where i would remember snatches and glimpses … For instance, I remember it being morning, my mum had left for work ( in a hurry and late as always)… I remember playing on the floor… I cant recall if I was playing with my dolls or colouring ( I had adored both, I wanted the entire playhouse and I had Barbie, her sister Skipper and their kid sister Kelly, and I had wanted to build them a beautiful little house and I only ever had the living room set; I did however have the most fantastic set of crayons any girl could hope for,bright vivid colours in all possible hues… I could lose myself in either of the two for hours on end, cocooned in my little world)

I remember him in the background, reading a paper before he called me to go sit with him. I was reluctant to leave my toys but I adored his wife and loved playing with his kids ( She had only sons and was utterly in love with my cute pretty lil self, and as for the kids, they were boys but I was willing to overlook it , especially considering I didn’t have anyone else to play with). Besides he was friends with my Dad and his entire family, being rude was just asking for a lecture on manners and good behavior. So with all the solemnity of a martyr, I tore myself away from my toys to humor the adult.

I remember his penchant for making me sit in his lap. I couldn’t understand it at the time, but i remember that it used to make me distinctly uncomfortable. I don’t think by that point I even liked sitting in my mum’s lap. But adults… What could you possibly do about them? They insist on inane things like exclaiming just how big I got ( I was 7 lady, were you seriously expecting me to become smaller?) You just had to go along with it and smile like you were brain-dead so that you don’t ruffle anyone’s feathers and pray they lose interest soon so you can escape unnoticed.

And that’s were everything went awry. I was pretty sure that he oughtn’t to be kissing me on my lips… No one not even mum or dad did that. I actually distinctly remember thinking that he ought to watch less of those Hollywood movies were the hero and heroine have their tongue down each other’s throats all the time ( We weren’t allowed to watch those and my dad would be livid if he saw us, but as long as the heroine didn’t mind the fact that they were obviously exchanging germs I didn’t think it was a big deal) But I did resent the fact that his big disgusting tongue was invading my mouth with no thought of hygiene, or that the more i struggled to get off his lap, the more enthusiastic he got.

Now at 3 or 4 I had no qualms about running around naked. In fact I reveled in it, if the stories were to be believed.My mother had to run behind me to get me dressed and I would always run to the Aunty living downstairs and it was all so much fun…well until the day,I ran smack into Uncle who was with Aunty and I remember thinking that clothes weren’t such a bad idea after all. It may have been the first time that i realised what embarrassment felt like.I suppose it dawned on me that society gave a lot of emphasis on clothes and the lack thereof. Anyway safe to say any and all naked running around had come to a halt since then.

So it felt weird that this man was unzipping my dress. I could change clothes by myself then and I really didn’t want to at that point. I was wearing my favorite dress anyway ( The one with orange and white polka dots that I used to wear every other day. It stopped showing up in my cupboard after a while, but it still took me some time to realise that my mum had got fed up and threw it away). Nor did I appreciate the fact that he was running his hands over my body , touching places that I somehow knew weren’t supposed to be touched and for some inconceivable reason, he kept pushing me down on his lap and grinding against me.

So, I did the only thing I knew would would work in any situation- I threw a tantrum and said I wanted to go play again. Thankfully our maid or someone walked in and I happily ran off to colour or play house or whatever I was doing at the time.

But I guess I knew even then that something was off… Young as I was I still didn’t think this was the norm in social interaction. And even weirder, I kept imagining scenarios of what would happen if I told. Do not get me wrong, not in one of those situations did I ever imagine that my parents would be angry with me… I had this premonition of sorts I suppose ( underdeveloped women’s intuition perhaps) that it would upset them badly. It would change things between my dad and uncle.They had been friends since college. And maybe aunty might be upset too. What if they stopped coming over? I loved going swimming with the guys. What if all of that went away? And for what… if people did it on TV then it couldn’t possibly be that very bad. And to have everything change for an incident that barely lasted half hour…was it actually worth it? I don’t know if that little girl realised that she was hiding cowardice under a guise of pragmatism or if she just desperately wanted to put the whole thing behind her and just go back to her imaginary world where she was queen and all her subjects adored and admired her, and she would quash evil with an iron fist.

As I grew older, his visits though lest frequent, would make me uneasy. I would be uncomfortable in his presence, sullen , withdrawn, curt to the point of being rude. My parents were annoyed but I was a teenager and prone to mood swings and idiosyncrasies . Somehow they missed all the little tells, the way I visibly became distraught when he hugged me, the way I would find excuses to hole up in my room whenever he came by, lecherous glances he threw my way when no one was watching, the way he held my hand for a little too long and make little circles on my palm before letting go, the sexual undertones that I was just beginning to comprehend, and worst of i all, the greatest blow to my fledgling pride- his all knowing conceited smirk that said he knew too well I found him abhorrent and disgusting and yet his self-assuredness that I would still never tell on him.

I repressed it all of it, except to ensure that one thing alone was engraved in stone – that whatever happened, I would not feel sorry for myself, I would never blame myself, I would never allow myself to feel ashamed for something was forced upon me, and I would never ever allow it to interfere with my future relationships or the decisions I made for myself – sexual or otherwise.

In retrospect, I suppose I was too conceited and too sure of myself that I never anticipated that the mere flap of a little butterfly’s wings would affect my life in any way whatsoever. Pride doth come before a fall I suppose… It was nothing disastrous or catastrophic… in a sad sick way, it was pretty much par for the course for any girl growing up in India these days. The guy who squeezed my ass in a crowd, the guy at the dress shop who was obstinately trying to drape a sari for me so that “madam could see how good she looks in it’, the guys at work- who thought that despite multiple attempts at dissuading him, he could woo me against my will or judge me for whom I chose to spend time with or making assumptions as to the nature of my relationships- painting platonic professional relationships in an overtly sexual light, or the one who thought teaching me to apply a cast for a broken tibia was a great time to press me against the gurney and grind against me and touch me inappropriately , humiliating me in front of my patient and his attendant.

Like I said, it probably is the norm for any woman these days, pathetic as it might seem- and yet it isn’t the incident per se that still continues to disturb me. Its the fact that I feel like a fraud, the self loathing that stems from the fact that I never spoke up, that not once did I scream or shout or scratch the bloody bastards eyes out. I was a self touted feminist- if it had happened to anyone else, if I had known that someone else was in my shoes I like to believe that I would have retaliated- verbally , physically or legally. But the fact that I didn’t, the fact that I never confronted them or ensured that they faced the consequences of their actions, that despite being in the wrong I was the one who felt humiliated- its something I still haven’t been able to get over. The little girl, the confused teenager – them I might be able to forgive, but the loathing , scorn and disdain that I feel for the young woman I have never quite been able to make my peace with.

I am not looking for Prince Charming or a Knight in shining armor to protect the damsel in distress from evil goons and perverts- somewhere deep inside of me is that little girl, the one who was a self styled warrior princess and protector of her realm.She would never cower behind any man nor wait for one to show up and save the day. She would save herself and the prince if need be. But she could have used friends- ones who thought they were doing the right thing by letting her know that other guys thought she was a slut because of how she dressed or talked or interacted with people in an effort to make her change into a make people realise who she actually was; when they ought to have been defending her and telling them just how misogynistic and hypocritical they were to judge a girl because she wears dresses or lipstick or smokes or drinks when they could easily drink her under the table. That a girl’s clothes or the fact that she laughs or hangs out with guys doesn’t necessarily imply that she was promiscuous or ‘easy’ and even if it did it was none of their bloody business nor their place to judge. Friends who tried fervently to keep her from the perverts in her life just as fervently dissuaded her from speaking up. Or worse friends who implied that whatever happened probably happened because of the ‘signals’ that she gave off by interacting ‘ a little too freely’ with them.

They were sympathetic , they were protective and in their own weird twisted way were looking out for me- for which I am grateful; but unwittingly they reinforced my self-loathing, the disgust that you feel for yourself when you know that what has happened is wrong and yet you do nothing about it. The humiliation of suffering in silence when all I had to do was open my mouth.

But even worse is the knowledge that when something of the sort happens, I retreat into a little place in my head, dissociate myself so very completely from what is happening to me and go to a safe place where I can see and feel but I just remain numb. Like my body is physically still present but my mind just simply goes elsewhere so that the sense of violation is just physical, it can’t ( or more accurately, I won’t let it) affect my essence.”Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker”, but somewhere along the way I allowed my failure to speak up as a child to morph into the judge,the jury,the executioner,the undertaker , and the first handful of sand on my grave.And that is why I loathe my self.

Today , at 26 years, I suffer from moderate to severe depression, severe anxiety and debilitating panic attacks. Yet what appalls me is the ease with which people assume that all my problems stem from one childhood incident, an incident I swore I would never let leave any imprints on my life. I have dealt with enough psychiatrists to recognise that gleam in their eyes- I have seen it in my own when I reach a diagnosis- the satisfaction that they have deduced the root of my issues, the gratification that their suspicions have been confirmed.They try to reassure me, that it wasn’t my fault, it was how anyone would have reacted, where they in my shoes. Their ill conceived attempts to bolster my crippled sense of self just simply make the bile rise up in my throat- I know it was not my fault, and I refuse to be just ‘anyone else’.

Even worse is the pity in peoples’ eyes when they come to know and they conclude that they have judged you too harshly for all the things you had and had not done because they realise that you are just a poor little traumatized girl. I appreciate the acknowledgment that my problems are genuine psychiatric illnesses and not just the consequence of being a lazy spoilt brat, but I deeply resent the fact that that acknowledgment stems from the knowledge of an incident that in my eyes holds no more significance t than falling down and skinning my knee. I can just about live with empathy, but pity – I don’t deserve anyone’s pity.I want to believe that I am have more mettle than that.

My depression, my anxiety, my loss of control, my emotional outbursts are just that- mine. Chemical imbalance in MY brain, MY genetics, environmental factors that influenced MY life.I refuse to share credit for my problems with some asshole who tried to screw me over as a child. My issues, whether I like it or not, are a part of who I am – I will always remain a sum of my experiences.But that little girl inside of me, she still believes with the absolute conviction that only a child possesses, that the course of my life shall be decided solely by me.That whatever happens, the good, the bad or the ugly, its still I who has the right to choose, I who decide whats important and what is insignificant.That no matter the situation, no matter who supports me or who doesn’t- the only constant in an ever changing world that I can absolutely depend upon is myself. Even if that ever changing world is just in my head, and everything feels unreal, when I remember nightmares or even exhibit glimmers of psychoses- I am still me. My mind can try to manipulate me but it really doesn’t have a bloody clue who its up against. I thought I needed someone to be my crutch, my rock.I don’t anymore, no matter how ferocious the storm no matter the gales that threaten to uproot everything, no matter the furor , I shall still be me, I shall be my own rock and I will survive.

Physics might contend otherwise, but no fucking butterfly nor its bloody wings are enough to create a storm that wreaks havoc in my life. I am my own storm- I encompass the fury and ferocity of the gales, just as I do the fortitude and tenacity that is the eye of the storm.

Hope…

Legends talk of a woman, blessed by the Gods themselves, ‘the all gifted’. Created by Hephaestus, at Zeus’ behest,molded from the very earth- the epitome of femininity. Athena dressed her in a shimmery white gown , taught her art and endowed her with wisdom,strength and valor , Aphrodite blessed her with beauty and grace enough to entice the hearts of even the strongest of men, Charites gave her chains of gold and silver , charms to grace her lithe body and alabaster skin, the Horae gifted her a garland crown with green sprigs, red-gold autumn leaves and crystal snowflakes to adorn the cascade of her ebony hair. Hermes gifted her a crafty mind and taught her wiles to beguile the minds of mortals and Gods alike. And as she opened her eyes – darker than the darkest night, parted her crimson lips and drew her first breath, he gave her a name- “Pandora”.

She wanted for nothing for she had it all – the love of scholars and warriors alike,to enthrall her with tales long forgotten and to lay their swords and lives at her feet, the admiration of women who sought to hide the seeds of envy blossoming in their hearts. She was the warmth that one craved during winter nights, the breeze that soothed summer evenings, the vibrant hues of spring.She was everything any mortal would desire.

And yet, her heart was listless. A longing from deep within, for in their haste the Gods had forgotten the greatest gift of all- to be content,fulfilled and to know peace.And so she continued her quest to find that piece of her that would render her complete, driven to a frenzy in her pursuit for that which surrounded her and yet was beyond her grasp. Why was it that the mortals that thronged around her- imperfect creatures- could indulge in joy and pleasure, but she alone denied?

And then came that fateful day, when Zeus himself entrusted to her care a bejewelled jar, engraved with secrets and shrouded in mystery. To her many questions and her curious glances, He gave terse, cryptic replies- revealing only that it contained the greatest gifts to mankind. Driven by her inquisitiveness, her greed to know joy- for she knew with iron- clad certainty that happiness was the gift on which mankind thrived- she opened the jar, her hands trembling with anticipation. And in her blind pursuit of happiness- she doomed the whole of the mortal realm for aeons to come.

She watched helplessly, as if in a trance , as Salus escaped and man knew of fear that lies in wait, biding its time, poised to strike.Then fled Concordia, leaving the world bleak and the minds of men filled with poison. They were followed by Aequitas, Clementia, Libertas and Pax and the lands ravaged by war, men shackled in chains ,cruelty reigned , mercy and goodwill towards brethren long forgotten. Felicitas, Leatitia weren’t far behind- and in front of her very eyes, all that she craved, all that for which she had forsaken mankind, slipped away as if they never were. The most treacherous blow , however , came from Virtus, draining away her sense of self- her self worth, her pride smashed to smithereens. And yet, that final blow shook her out of her reverie, and before Spes could follow her sisters, she trapped her again with the confines of the jar.

And so goes the tale of Pandora-

“Of all good things that mortals lack,

Hope in the soul alone stays back”

But the Gods never were a trustworthy lot, and that leaves one to wonder if Hope is the promise of a new dawn or merely expectation designed to decieve?Is it the last of our blessings or the worst curse bestowed upon us?

Of Fears, Demons and Gods

Do you hear it? That steady beat…the drums, the Chenda mellam, Madhalam,Idakka ,Elathallam, a cacophony in your head yet its rhythm, its beat in sync with your pounding heart.It starts off soft, slowly growing, gaining momentum, until it drowns out everything else – just the rhythm and the hammering of your heart against your chest.

Do you see it? The outlines of stone walls, half hidden in the shadows, mysterious carved figurines, in the dimly lit glow of the kal vilakku lining its walls, they almost seem to move, grotesque four armed monsters on steeds just as hideous as themselves brandishing swords dripping with blood and holding decapitated heads,wearing garlands of skulls, eternal guardians of the Gods. The gandharvas , the yakshas who seems to touch you while you search for a way out, there one second and gone the next. They are toying with you, playing games with your mind but you still spin around anyway everytime you glimpse a shadow of movement.

Can you struggle against them? The invisible chains that bind you in the centre of a pentagram surrounded by lamps.Its boundaries in white, that cant be crossed even if you somehow break free of the chains.Its colours, almost hypnotising, vivid greens, blood red, bright yellow and the darkest of black. Ancient runes and symbols made to bind the unwilling, the unworthy.

Can you feel them approaching? The painted figures decked in all their glory moving to the beats, silhouetted against the shadows and the horrors that are shrouded within.You can see them cant you? Hear the bells of the chelanga and the thalam they wear jingling with each step. Their intricate jewellery twinkling in the light of the dimly lit vilakku. their headdress elaborate beautifully painstakingly made. Their faces painted orange their tongues red, eyes elaborated painted in black the white dots lining their forehead.

When does that primal fear begin to build inside you? When can you hear the blood rushing to our ears? When does your breath start to become laboured ?

Is it when they move closer, swaying ,still in time to the beat of the drums? Or is it when they are close enough to see every detail, every line ,every curve on their painted faces? Or is it when you see the expressions on them- rage, envy, disgust, grief,greed, lust? Each lasting mere seconds but leaving no doubt as to their presence.Or is it when you recognise familiar faces beneath the masks- faces long forgotten, buried in the depths of your subconscious, faces you had never wished would see the light of day? Or does your heart thud faster only when you see that central figure, so very familiar, its features contorted in hatred, rage burning in its eyes or does your mind begin unravel only when you recognise those eyes? The same eyes that you look into every day in a mirror?

Do your tears fall? Your throat burn as you scream, your cries echoing against the stone walls? Do you plead for mercy? For someone to hear you? Do you feel the desperation , the absolute dejection settling in the pit of your stomach, when you realise that the only ones that can hear you are the Gods? Carved in stone, their hearts cold, their eyes blank and their ears deaf.Do you still hope for escape or do you resign yourself to your fate with a silent prayer to anyone who might be listening that the end be painless and swift?

The Elements

Isn’t it odd how the elements of nature so accurately depict the many facets of our soul, however complex we claim it to be?Or is it that we see what we look for, for meaning in the outside world, when none are forthcoming from inside?

Take for example the wind- a calm breeze against your cheek, enough to soothe your troubled mind, to make you believe that you aren’t alone, to caress your skin, to stroke your hair, an imperceptible touch, barely there and yet makes all the difference. It brings with it a waft of fragrances, the smell of lavender and honeysuckle and reminds you of home and of love. Or the first gust of early winter, slyly stealing away the warmth, so slowly that you almost fail to realise it till you feel the biting cold, the frost beginning to settle on your skin, cold seeping into your bones, into the crevices of your heart.And then there is the tempest, beautiful, dangerous, passionate… It uproots everything, nothing stands in its way, its sheer force making your mind, body and soul quake like a leaf deperately clinging unto a twig for dear life.

” If I were a dead leaf thou mightest bear;
If I were a swift cloud to fly with thee;  “

To be free, unshackled, to fly- the sheer exhilaration of stepping off a cliff, to feel nothing but the wind beneath you, that rush of the fall and the hope that it would take you someplace safe…

Or water for that matter-the serene pond, where even ripples die away into nothingness, nothing to disturb its tranquility,to be carried in its arms, a lone leaf, aimless, content… Or the waterfall,cascading through rocks, forging paths were none had existed before, smashing away any obstacle that dares stand in its way,itself splitting into beads of water, luxuriating in their freedom, to know that it encompasses a multitude of drops, each capable of eroding away even centuries old rock, slowly but surely; the calm of the ocean,its surface belaying the depths it conceals, of mysteries and hidden worlds, of sunken treasure, secrets untold , secrets older than time itself.To be able to swim in its depths, to discover a new world, dark, strange and yet alluring, to be able to touch something so ancient, to know that even if you cease to exist, even if everything you know ceases to exist, it will endure and you a mere speck that disappears in a blink of its eyes. Would it cradle you in its arms, protect you from the world as you lie on its bed or would it carry you , insignificant mortal, only to hurl you at the rocks, angered by your audacity to seek acceptance in its arms, to fling you aside like a broken toy.

Fire- possibly the most enthralling of them all. You find yourself craving its warmth, bewitched by the hypnotic dance of its flames, a myraid of hues- yellow,orange red sometimes even blue- licking away at the log of wood.The flicker of a candle or the beauty of wildfire- equally entrancing, beckoning you with sweet lies, whispering as its flames caress your skin, promises of warmth, of pain so sweet it pleasure and then when it turns white hot the promise of feeling nothing at all. The unspoken promise of purity- mind, body and soul, if only you were to give in…You know it will eventually consume you, all that is left would be dying embers , ash and smoke and yet its seductive murmurs plant seeds of doubt in the far corner of your mind… Wound surrender be truly so horrid?

Then there is the earth- she is called Mother Gaia for a reason. She exudes warmth, forgiveness, offers acceptance. She is the start of life, she watches you blossom , she sees you sin and yet embraces you with open arms when the weight of the world is too much to bear. No judgement, no expectations- just respite, refuge and absolution.To be able to sink into her arms, the feel of soil against bare skin, that indescribable smell of raindrops in the soil, to know peace, that would be bliss. After all, it is as they say, “Ashes to ashes, dust to dust”

Which brings us to the most mysterious of them all- aether. Mind? Spirit? Essence?Its said to be ephemeral,encompassing, the breath of Gods.Mystical, it is said to unite the other elements. What could be so powerful, so omniscient that it rules over the others – more capricious than wind, more serene and reticent than water, more seductive and wilder than fire and more benevolent than earth? Some think its the soul – the life force that keeps us going- but how could something so frail, so fragile possibly defend itself? A gust of wind would extinguish it, a mere handful of water drown it, a spark of fire enough to reduce it to smithereens and a smattering of earth enough to bury it. I can not claim to understand it, my questions have no answers, in fact , they only lead me down stranger paths which abound with further questions. Mayhap, one day I shall discover its secret and mayhap one day I might know peace.

The Snow Globe

Ever felt as though you were trapped in a snow globe? A pretty little world , with all the colours you can dream up… Where there is joy, peace and contentment… Whee you are you, no pretenses, no reason to prove yourself, no fear of falling short , of not being good enough.Someplace safe, where its just possible to be…To be free. A veritable utopia of books, art, sunshine and rainbows

But freedom always comes with a price.No matter how much you hide, no matter how sheltered you feel, no matter how carefully you build your haven, there is always a price. A price for freedom, a price for dreams and a price for happiness.

Because you see my snow globe is in someone else’s hands. If this were a fairy tale, I would call her a witch with a crooked nose, warts shrouded in a black cloak, cackling as she plotted new and devious ways of torture. But this is neither a fairy tale, nor is my puppeteer malevolent.There are no princes on white horses, noble knights to save the trapped princess, no one to champion my cause, no one to battle my dragons nor to come to my aid or offer solace.

Reality is never as simple. My jailor is not evil. It would have been far easier if she were. She has no malice towards me nor does she revel in my miseries. She is not sadistic. In fact she is nothing. She’s a shadow, that rustle of movement you see out of the corner of your eye, the last thing you remember as you awaken from a distressing dream. She simply is.

Sometimes she shakes the little snow globe. Its so pretty you see. Snowflakes dancing in the air.And then she shakes a little harder. The snow comes down faster, harder, sucking away at the warmth till all you can feel is the cold, and it chills you to the bone.There is no escape from it, nowhere to huddle for warmth or safety. The ground beneath your feet moves, little tremors at first and then the earth shakes so badly that you search in desperation for something to hold on to. Some constant, in a world that is rapidly becoming unfamiliar and scary.

Slowly everything dies around you , while you look on, helpless. The colours leach away, leaving nothing but a dull gray all around.You watch as your world you had so painstakingly built crumbles around you, unable to stop the inevitable sequence of events sure to follow, powerless, unable to even look away until you accept defeat, resigned to your fate and simply close your eyes, waiting for it to end.

You collapse just as your world did. Your spirit broken.You would expect to feel pain, anguish but even that is denied to you. All you feel, all you are capable of feeling is the numbness. It courses through you veins, much as the cold did.Your very life, your essence, your will to live trickling away to nothingness. You sit in the midst of the ruins, wondering where to start, or how, or even if its possible to rebuild everything you have lost. And if it would be worth it if you did.

And, the worst part, the truly horrifying part, is that even when you think its over, that the worst has passed and you have tided over, picked yourself up, is the fact that, you don’t know when or how, but you know in the deepest darkest corner of your heart that it will happen again. The happiness, the pain, the destruction and the helplessness at the hands of an entity older than time,far too powerful to defeat. That there is no escape from the snow globe.

The Circle

No one realises it- but its everywhere. From the vast reaches of the cosmos , the stars ,the planets and their moons, to the minuscule orbits of electrons.From every whorl, every eddy in a pond to the wine swirling in a glass. There’s nothing quite as perfect , unending, eternal or constant as an unbroken circle.Its almost enough to convince even a staunch atheist of a greater design , of divine creation.

The wheel of time, the cycle of seasons..even as it changes there’s a sense of constancy to it- reassuring to some but to me its horrifying.

You see, I often feel trapped in a loop of my own design, much like a guinea pig on its wheel- I try and try and even when i realise that i am not moving forward I cant stop; so i keep running.

I wake up every morning with a lot of difficulty; whats new about that I have been asked. No one likes early mornings.But I do, or at least i did. Now its a struggle. Twisting, turning, tired even after 6-7 hours of sleep, having to fight the sheer exhaustion to merely wake up and get up from bed.

Mundane things everyone takes for granted seem like herculean tasks- from brushing my teeth, to taking a bath, forcing myself to do some yoga…its as though I want to sprint but there are weights attached to my ankles…and on bad days, as though they are shackled to the floor.

And then the rational voice in my mind- the one that seems to be getting more and more feeble with each passing day- tells me that I am clinically depressed.That depressed people don’t care about their appearances or even hygiene. And somehow that spurs me on. I had stopped caring about my appearance long ago but to give in , to be a stereotype something deep inside me rebels against it. So I force myself to go through the motions. I cleanse, I moisturize, I apply foundation, lipstick, comb my hair out. No one quite understands why I would care about something so insignificant- my career is non-existent, I have managed to alienate my friends, my love life…well lets not go down that road.But, its overwhelming trying to tackle those- so i focus on something i have control over, something that keeps me grounded when i feel as though I have lost all sense of time and space, so cut off from the outside world that I have forgotten the last time that I had spoken to someone new… or someone old for that matter. Its distressing, feeling as though you are walking on air, like with every step you take , the very ground beneath your feet is getting washed away. For everything to be so surreal that you can’t be quite sure if its real or a waking dream or nightmare that has you trapped.

And then starts the ordeal.People consider a war difficult, but in a war, however gruesome , you know your enemy, you know why- the scariest is the strife in your own head- without knowing why or how; to have conflicting needs- to want something and to crave something diametrically opposite. Freud called it Id and Superego but where is my Ego that’s supposed to mediate?The battle rages on, till everything else fades away into nothingness and the only reality are the voices in your head- one pulling you one way and the other another. Amidst the clamor and the din, its impossible to hear your own voice, your thoughts, your needs and wants. The noise increases till it becomes a buzzing in your head, like static on TV.And all you can think of is to get to safety, someplace quiet where the din would die down, a haven where you would be safe, when you can finally hear our thoughts. And that’s what i endure every time I try to leave my apartment.

The days that i surrender to it, those are truly horrendous- guilt becomes an almost tangible physical force, like chains and the pain weighs upon my chest, and every breath becomes a struggle. Knowing that i failed , yet again , not just myself but everyone who cares about me, everyone who wonders why I couldn’t just make a little more effort, try just a little bit harder, who wonder why its so difficult when i have done the same umpteen times before- its all I can do to curl up in bed bury myself in blankets and try and forget the world.

I don’t know whats worse- the self-pity that makes me want to crawl under a rock and die or the self-loathing that makes me want to cut myself to ribbons and feel the excruciating pain. That’s the thing about pain- people say its bad or that they fear it but pain is like an old dear friend-there’s something akin to ecstasy in it, something sensual and real.. to be able to feel a little less burdened by guilt, a little more connected to reality and sometimes just to feel. It envelopes you in a warm embrace and in its arms you feel secure that it would never abandon you.

But when you are told repeatedly that its self-destructive , that you are a freak and it drives people away , you settle. If you cant feel then you submerge yourself in numbness – pretend you are floating, give in to the sense of detachment. You find solace in other things- that hit of nicotine reaching your lungs and then spreading through your veins, the lightheadedness or the slow warmth of alcohol- warming you from inside, comforting or when the pain becomes so intense that its physical when you feel as though even sobbing and all the tears in the world wouldn’t abate the pain, then it becomes oh so easy to just take a little pill, one that would make all your troubles disappear, lull you into oblivion for a few hours at least.There is respite in ignorance, after all it is said to be bliss.

The worst part though is that sliver of hope that never quite gets extinguished, like this tiny little flame that somehow escapes from the tempest- that whisper inside your head that says tomorrow will be better, that all you have to do is hold on just a little bit longer, that if you have got this far then you oughtn’t give up now. That treacherous little voice that you hate with every fibre of your being and yet want to believe fervently.The one that forces you to wake up the next morning and then repeat- again and again- the cycle unbroken.

You see that’s the truly terrifying part- the circle- eternal, never ending, constant- it seems nigh impossible to break free…